Priorities

The following is my heart’s desire. This is what I aim to be. Yet, I am still very much a work in progress and don’t always hit the mark.

I believe it is wise to reflect on how you want to be thought of in the various areas of your life. We all have various ‘buckets’ that we fit in. My buckets may not look like yours, but I’m posting my Mission Statement below in hopes that it will inspire you to write one of your own.

As a believer, I am daily growing closer to my Lord. I listen, read, and learn more about Him each day.

As a wife, I am patient and supportive. I value our relationship. I deliberately spend time listening and conversing with my husband. We spend one-on-one time on a regular basis and we enjoy each other’s company.

As a mother, I am available for my children. We have strong, healthy relationships. I am someone they can each child is able to count on. I show them how much I love them and we laugh together often.

As an employee, I strive to always provide my very best work. I am focused and aware of how to best serve. I am a leader amongst my peers. I never stop learning about how to improve.

As a friend and a sibling, I make time to connect and value these relationships. I recognize the value of friendship. I am a good friend that listens and laughs as we live life together.

As a bookkeeper/treasurer, I am diligent, timely, and efficient. I am a woman of my word.

Overarching throughout these roles, I take care of myself and my health so that I am able to be the best me I can. I eat well, I exercise regularly, I stay hydrated by drinking plenty of water, and I get adequate rest.

Do you have a mission statement? Can you see how creating one could be helpful as you can re-read it whenever you are feeling derailed or lost along life’s paths? I hope this simple exercise helps you.

Out Of Whack Priorities

I am listening to Living On The Edge’s teaching, Balancing Life’s Demands, again.

Chip Ingram touched on the six symptoms that your priorities might be out of whack. He really hit the nail on the head and, unfortunately, he described me to a ‘T’.

Busyness. Goodness, yes. But…here is the key. I am always busy, but my life is barren of fruit. There is stuff everywhere. Things that I am going to get to, but simply haven’t yet.

Emotional stress and pressure. Anxiety. Uptight all the time. Headaches. Restless. Racing thoughts. I was recently telling a friend how I felt like my heart would often race and that I often felt unsettled. She told me that I had an issue with anxiety. Sounds about right.

Low-grade nagging guilt. Feeling bad about myself. There are so many things that I know I’m supposed to do, but don’t do (or haven’t done yet). While I realize that nobody has it all together, I constantly feel like I don’t measure up.

Financial debt. Not only are we holding credit card debt (again), but we are also not being faithful in giving regularly and sacrificially back to the Lord.

Prayerlessness. Most of my prayers are when I am with others. At church. Or at mealtimes. I prayed a quick prayer with and for my son on the way to his job interview. Those quick ‘check-ins’ are my current prayer life. It has been a long time where I have had an honest, deep connection with my Lord.

Excessive behavior. For me, I realize that I have taken my ‘downtime’ to be something that I convince myself that I deserve. Lots of TV time, lots of time browsing the internet and on social media, eating junk food. These things aren’t – in and of their own – bad. But, I have realized that these little things become an overall issue in my life as they are my crutch.

Another area that I feel convicted to work on is relationships. You see, God focuses on relationships. If it were not for Him putting really good (and patient) people in my life, I would likely be a total loner as I do not prioritize my relationships at all in this season of life. I consistently allow all of the ‘busyness’ of my life to crowd out the things that I would state are my priorities. In other words, my actions and behaviors do not accurately reflect my priorities.

Can you relate to feeling less than ‘on point’ in any of the above areas? The Good News is that our feelings are not reality. If you are God’s child, these so-called failures that are so easy for us to focus on are NOT what God sees when He sees us. He sees someone that He loves and cherishes so much that He died in order to be able to spend eternity with you. With me. Let that sink in for a moment. You are valued so highly by the very One that created you.

So, while I think we are wise to be sensitive to the convictions God give us, and we should strive to have our lives be a testimony of God’s goodness and grace, we also need to recognize when our self-talk is destructive. Those feelings and thoughts are not from the Lord. When I start to feel down and I know I’m losing out to my inner critic, I like to be able to turn to his Word. I have found the following helpful:

What do you find helpful? I’d love to hear from you. Help a sister out. 🙂